Do not tent to protect them for fear of being hurt. The more you allow your vulnerability to emerge less you feel you should be protected. Analyze the reasons that led you to wrap yourself in your steel shell and discover what’s true in all of them. Maybe in the past you get hurt, but living life on a defensive way will cause more stressful situations than well-fare. Of course, it is not necessary to go out there with heart in hand, but you could show it more often to trusted people. Living in consonance with the heart and feelings will help you feel closer and less outraged by others.
Spend a fun time with someone is not the same thing as friendship. Interact with people whom can trust and talk to them about things that worry you, disturb you, that make you feel vulnerable. Do not think that others do not want to hear about your problems. The more you open yourself, the easier it will be to get rid of such negative feelings. In addition, it will also serve you to see your situation from another point of view, it always helps to relativize what happens to us.
That’s a good way to defend yourself. If you know you’re going to meet someone who usually hurt your vulnerability, try to be very aware before, during and after the meeting, with the purpose to safeguard your inner peace. Do not defy or confront them. Forgive him because that person probably is not aware of what he does or the consequences of his words. Just watch it like a teacher who puts you a test. Prove to yourself that you can emerge victorious. Of course, the best defense is not to be attacked.
#B_MASTER_ OF_ #YOURSELF_ = #THE_REAL_POWER_
Analyze your need for intensity. Try to make your leisure and fun projects do not end with the virtue of moderation. Is it worthwhile to always go beyond the limit?
How do you feel the next day? Ask a trusted friend that stops you in time. Willpower is not just there, it is practiced.
DO_NOT PUNISH #OTHERS AND/OR PUNISH #YOURSELF_
Guilt is a concept that does not really exist. Rather change it by the assumption of responsibility and the possibility of making mistakes that will help you to learn and evolve. Things happen, and sometimes they hurt. No need to constantly blame. Try to discover what learning is hidden behind the event itself. Sometimes misfortune it can become an opportunity.
Cultivate compassion, especially to people who you think have been unfair to you or you feel you have more wounded. Revenge and hatred feed back itself. You could stop this chain. You should think probably you’ve been unfair with someone sometime too.
NO_ONE_ CAN_ HURT_[U]_ UNLESS_[U]_ CONSENT_IT_
Watch your tendency to self-cheating, believing that the cause of your inner discomfort usually is outside yourself.
#CONNECT_ EMOTIONALLY_ WITH_ #OTHER_S_
Stop trying to control others preventing friendly gestures towards you. If they want to help you, let them help. If they want to make compliments, let make them. If it arises naturally, on their own initiative, do not feel indebted to them. Just enjoy their generosity, you may learn a lot. If you allow others to do things for you, you can stop show always tough and strong, showing the tender side of your own human condition.